Have We Forgotten How to Mourn?
I've been thinking about rituals lately. Perhaps it's because All Saints' Day is approaching, or because autumn reminds us that everything changes. The trees are nearly bare, the flowers have wilted, and the earth is preparing for its long winter rest. Last week, I wrote about the trees letting go of their leaves without apology. About the garden growing quiet and the life that continues beneath the frozen ground. I've been thinking about that again, particularly about the ways we mark the changing seasons of our own lives. I remember taking an entire course on rituals in seminary. A rabbi taught it, and I was fascinated by the richness of Jewish traditions. Rituals surround birth, coming of age, marriage, death, and the changing seasons. Even the ordinary rhythms of the week are marked by ritual. Of course, Christianity has its own rich traditions, but that course made me realize how deeply human our need for ritual really is. For thousands of years, people have gather...